I don’t understand why women say ‘I’m just a mom.’ Remind me again which job on the planet is more important.” ~Anonymous
Welcome to my blog. Firstly, I want to acknowledge all the parents out there. This is one tough job – whether you are a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or a dad – not to mention the additional challenges for those of you who are single parents, or parents who are dealing with graver life challenges along the way.
As for me, I have a pretty great life – but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. In actual fact, I suspect that finding balance as a working mom will be one of the pinnacles of my life’s achievements. However, regardless of any tangible achievements or experiences I may accumulate along the way, at end of the day, I want to look upon my two children with the same joy, awe and humility I felt from that very first moment I held them in my arms – and to KNOW that THEY are my greatest gift to this world.
As for this blog, my thoughts will take me in many different directions because just like everyone, there are many sides to “Amy”, and many roles that I fill (mom, wife, chiropractor, speaker, teacher, sister, daughter, friend, school volunteer… and writer!… just to name a few) But none of these roles of what I DO defines me. I am me. And I am committed to being the most real “me’ that I can be.
I believe that who I am as a person precedes who I am in any of my other roles AND that there is power in being vulnerable. And so, I commit to sharing my thoughts – at my best and worst – because I also know that it helps when we know that we are not alone.
To give you a little background about my life as a mom, I started practice as a chiropractor when our son was 5 months old, had our daughter less than two years later, and juggled the busy life of young family – all while building a practice full of families, babies, kids and pregnant women. In fact, it was from many of the candid conversations in my practice over the years – about parenthood and its highs and lows – that inspired me to share this blog.
Personally, I do not walk the beaten path, although you may not know that to look at me. Firstly, our two beautiful children, Ethan and Audra, were born at home with midwives; I breastfed; we practiced attachment parenting, co-sleeping, and baby-wearing. We do not have medications in our house. We did not vaccinate our children. There are many ways that we think and act differently from the status quo, and do so in an effort to consciously create our lives.
Ultimately, I question EVERYTHING. I want to understand WHY.
It was from years of conversations in my practice, combined with my own experiences as a mom, that I came to realize a few things and felt called to share my thoughts and observations.
Firstly: Moms are incredibly hard on themselves. And I’d say most women struggle with unrealistic expectations of themselves as super-moms.
Secondly: Many of the trials we face as parents are experienced by most families – but we don’t talk about them and opt instead for putting on a brave face (and make up to cover the bags under our eyes).
And lastly – and in my opinion, most importantly: We all seem to think that we are the only ones who find motherhood hard (like everyone has it figured out but us) – and that simply is not the case.
Here is what I have come to realize: We are ALL super moms. And we all have our good days and bad days.
I often have told my son (my first-born) that when he was born, I was born, too… as a mother. I didn’t always know what I was doing (and I still don’t…) but I am committed to doing my best: loving my children, keeping them safe, and keeping them healthy. I admit to them that I make mistakes, and that I don’t have all the answers. It leaves me free to laugh, cry, be silly, dance, be sad, be mad, and ultimately be me. A mom doing her best.
My greatest purpose in life is to foster in my children the belief that they are magnificent, amazing human beings, that their bodies are smart and self-healing, that love is the most powerful force in the world, and that they can do ANYTHING. I ask of them that they learn to follow their hearts, be kind, and give their best – whatever that may be – in everything that they do. All of this is because I wish for them to have a wonderful life, to grow up in a wonderful world, and to leave it a better place because of their passing through it.
I have learned to juggle life, prioritize, simplify, and most of all, be real, be myself, and do the best I can. As a recovering perfectionist (a tendency that motherhood stomped all over), bringing my best game on any given day is as much as I can expect from myself or anyone else.
Being a mom is hard, it’s glorious, it’s messy. Kind of like life. These are my thoughts…